(Non) Relationship advice

[rich p]

Just mention your wife a couple of times, all will be good, the lady in question will get the gist.

Good call Pat.
Such as, " My wife's away next weekend"
"My wife doesn't understand me"
Would that do?

 

[Pat "5mph"]

when it happen to me, she was a blonde late 30's lithuanian very easy on the eye, I just kept the banter going telling her I was flattered but she must be either mad or desperate and anyway I didn't have the energy for 2 relationships or something along those lines,

Dunno here, my brain must be addled by the paint fumes - I have been decorating all day - but, if I was to be approached by unwanted male attention, and if I was married or with a partner, I would just say " I am married/with partner and I love my husband/partner".
Is the need for so many words because they are "tall, blonde, easy on the eye"?
I wonder what would happen if I go all innuendo to one of my male colleagues, me being neither tall, blonde nor in the flush of youth?

 

[steve50]

Just explain to the lady, although you enjoy the banter and friendship at work you have no intention of spoiling that working relationship by dating a colleague. Add to that that you are happily "married" and you have reason to believe that she is also married (wedding ring) therefore you are unwilling or able to jeopardise either relationship by meeting outside of work.
Explain you are quite happy to continue with the working relationship you share and you only passed on your mobile number as a friend / colleague as you have with several other working colleagues, add if she insists on sending further text messages you will be forced to change your mobile number,you could also block her number from your mobile using either the built in software on your phone or an app that you could download to your phone https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.netqin.mm&hl=en_GB

 

[Pat "5mph"]

theres a difference between unwanted male attention and being nice to work mates on a daily basis and someone taking it the wrong way and then trying to deal with it in a way that leaves everybody still able to be workmates and work together.

Well, yes, it is unwanted female attention.

 

[Richard A Thackeray]

I too work in a Hospital, & are surrounded by the above description of Nurses (as well as short ones, brunettes, various ethnic backgrounds)
Then again, I'm not a catch for anyone!! (I count myself lucky to have found my wife, 30 years ago)

Oh I didn't see the 'n' then.
You can probably tell how my mind works now.

Now, if I put links to FaceBook pictures, or put them up on here, of some of our more stunning looking staff, you'd see what I mean
I'll readily admit, we have some gorgeous girls, but I'm not interested (even if by some infitessimal chance that they were, in me)

Or, if I added a pic, of my buddy, on her m/bike

 

[Pat "5mph"]

if she doesn't listen to his explanation and continues then yes but until then she is just a woman who likes someone and is trying to find out if the feelings are mutual...

Absolutely: "text me if you like" was a bit of a mixed signal by the op.

 

[rich p]

Now, if I put links to FaceBook pictures, or put them up on here, of some of our more stunning looking staff, you'd see what I mean
I'll readily admit, we have some gorgeous girls, but I'm not interested (even if by some infitessimal chance that they were, in me)

Or, if I added a pic, of my buddy, on her m/bike

No offence Dicky, but what the fark are you on about?

 

[Richard A Thackeray]

No offence Dicky, but what the fark are you on about?

Sorry, a bit of a response to 'crackles' mis-reading

No worries, ignore me!

 

[Racing roadkill]

Jesus wept.

 

[Rapples]

Jesus wept.

Apparently he did so I'm told.

 

[DaveReading]

you could also block her number from your mobile using either the built in software on your phone or an app that you could download to your phone https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.netqin.mm&hl=en_GB

Do that anyway, whatever else you do (or don't do).

 

[dan_bo]

Just let your missus find the texts. Problem solved.



Thank me later.

 

[keithmac]

You've got to feel a bit sorry for the woman in question, giving her your number was a bit of a come on..

Saying that if she's genuinely still married than she deserves it!..

 

[nickyboy]

Just tell her you're a cyclist who seeks relationship advice from random nobbers on an internet forum

She'll run a mile

 

[Leaway2]

You are the second person to use the word "gorgeous", a word I have not used. Of course I am honest, if I'd chanced my arm by giving my number to woman I fancied, who then reacted positively, then I wouldn't be on CC asking for help would I? I'd be in the Shipley Travelodge.

Suggest this, that should end it quickly enough.