Got engaged.... let's have your "good advice"
- Thread starter Starchivore
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GM
Legendary Member
- Location
- North of the river
....and remember, her bum NEVER looks big!
biggs682
Itching to get back on my bike's
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- Northamptonshire
@Starchivore the above is so true so remember that and you will be all right
and congratulations to both of you
oh and you will only be allowed one bike from now onwards so be warned
Freds Dad
Veteran
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- Gawsworth.
Not to be confused with MILF
Levo-Lon
Guru
I got married a long time ago when i though i was on my way out...sadly i got better and she's still here...
Congratulations
seriously tho, dont be selfish and always finish second..treat her to things she will enjoy..
do that and you will be able to do your stuff and have a ok life...
Congratulations
seriously tho, dont be selfish and always finish second..treat her to things she will enjoy..
do that and you will be able to do your stuff and have a ok life...
DaveReading
Don't suffer fools gladly (must try harder!)
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- Reading, obvs
Globalti
Legendary Member
Tsk. I'm on my first marriage.
subaqua
What’s the point
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- Leytonstone
Most of the above is good advice. Carry a dictaphone at all times so when she doesn't listen and says you said X you can prove you didn't say it.
As for the domestic stuff . Make sure she does the stuff as good as you can. Mine can't and it drives me bonkers.
As for the domestic stuff . Make sure she does the stuff as good as you can. Mine can't and it drives me bonkers.
srw
It's a bit more complicated than that...
Ignore all the advice you're given - especially the advice about how men and women are different and the advice that implies you shouldn't trust each other. Make your own way in the world in love, mutual respect and friendship. You are two unique individuals, and its your individual uniqueness that has attracted you to each other, not the boring things that you each share with millions of others.
DaveReading
Don't suffer fools gladly (must try harder!)
- Location
- Reading, obvs
A former colleague of mine used to refer to his other half as "my current wife".
I don't know whether he was prescient or if it was a self-fulfilling prophecy, but sure enough she ended up leaving him.
I like Skol
A Minging Manc...
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- Sunny Ashton-under-Lyne
Met the fabulous Lady Skol as we both turned 17 and have been together ever since. Married in 2001and I am now 43 with two children age 10 & 13 so I guess I qualify for giving 'advice'.
My advice would be to ignore most advice. Most of it is people telling you what they would do, and look where that has got them. 2nd & 3rd marriages, resentment and selfishness!
You WILL have to compromise but don't be a pushover. Be completely honest, even if you have been an absolute idiot, you have to be able to trust each other.
Marry for the right reasons. Don't marry to avoid being alone or because she is forcing you or because it is expected. Marry the person you wan't to spend the rest of your life with.
Do things the way that works for you as a couple. Some of the previous advice has made me want to slap the posters. Seperate bank accounts, hidden money, extra-marital relationships, all signs of a bad relationship doomed to fail. Have your individual earnings paid into different accounts if that works for you but there is no reason they can't be in joint names if you are marrying the right person.
Most importantly, be friends.
I hope you are both very happy and wish you good luck
EDIT: I type too much/too slowly, beaten to it by @srw
My advice would be to ignore most advice. Most of it is people telling you what they would do, and look where that has got them. 2nd & 3rd marriages, resentment and selfishness!
You WILL have to compromise but don't be a pushover. Be completely honest, even if you have been an absolute idiot, you have to be able to trust each other.
Marry for the right reasons. Don't marry to avoid being alone or because she is forcing you or because it is expected. Marry the person you wan't to spend the rest of your life with.
Do things the way that works for you as a couple. Some of the previous advice has made me want to slap the posters. Seperate bank accounts, hidden money, extra-marital relationships, all signs of a bad relationship doomed to fail. Have your individual earnings paid into different accounts if that works for you but there is no reason they can't be in joint names if you are marrying the right person.
Most importantly, be friends.
I hope you are both very happy and wish you good luck
EDIT: I type too much/too slowly, beaten to it by @srw
John the Monkey
Frivolous Cyclist
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- Crewe
Congratulations, and best wishes from Mrs M and I for a long and happy life together.
byegad
Legendary Member
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- NE England
RUN!!!!
Bimble
Bimbling along ...
Trust and honesty are the foundations of a good long-term relationship, sprinkled with some compromise, brief separation (doing things outside of your relationship - different hobbies, interests, one night out a week with pals, etc.), acceptance of each other's faults, and an understanding that the "at it like bunny rabbits" early years passion will grow into something deeper (so don't worry if you'd rather snuggle-up for a cuddle than jump off the top of the wardrobe for the 7th time that week!). 
