I haven't read through all the posts here, buddy. I wish you all the best. It is a very hard thing you are going through. Your head isn't making the best decisions at the moment because of the emotional turmoil. I have been in a similar situation. Not married, but gf of many years suddenly decided to split up, out of the blue. I was totally devasted, blubbering all over the place for days - at work, in crowded public places, anywhere and anytime. And, i'm not small either, so nobody came near me. I was a total effing mess for ages. But, it doesn't have to be like this for you.
People are the best thing ever. Your sons are your best friends. Tell them what's happening to you. It's total bollocks to keep them out of the groove. My dad told me he and my mam were splitting up weeks after i had come to terms with it. But i was 30, not 20. Even though, kids aren't stupid. And besides that you need their support and love. You need as much love and support as you can get right now.
I got as far as
@buggi 's early post about getting the financial things in order, etc, and some of the responses to it.
@buggi 's post (don't know her by the way) makes sense.
I think this could be the making of you. Hard as it may sound.
Grown up children, 48 years-old, some capital, seeking adventure!
