Let's see if I can explain.
Re: spokes, sorry to be slow, but I'm not sure I follow...
To me these quotes read as if you are saying that there is no difference in the durability of a spoke based on it's dimensions. So the choice between Race/D-Light/Laser would be one purely based on weight to price ratio? So an audax rider choosing Race spokes over Lasers is doing so purely to save money and because he is not worried about the extra bit of weight, not because he wants thicker/more durable spokes?
Firstly, there's no statement in that paragraph that refers to durability. It was merely a paragraph to demystify the OP's paraphrase of someone else's (DR-Something wheels IIRC) BS-ing about weight. The biggest error in your analysis of what I said is that thicker spokes are more durable. They are NOT.
But then this last bit confuses me further as it seems to suggest that a thinner spoke is actually more durable.
Yes, it is confusing because it is counter-intuitive and fueled by stupid nomenclature by spoke companies. For instance, they call their extra-thick spokes Strong - they actually name them Strong. It is wrong.
Firstly you have to understand the difference between strong and durable. All spokes are strong enough for the job. There is no bicycle on earth where, when you mount, the spokes break. Therefore the wheels are strong enough. Durability on the other hand is all about longevity. Strength over time, if you wish. Durability in spokes is their ability to fight off metal fatigue, the primary failure mode of spokes. Metal fatigue is what happens when you sit and bend a piece of wire repeatedly until it breaks. It would be silly to say you are so strong you can break a piece of coat hanger wire, since it wasn't your strength that broke the wire but your repeated soft attack on it that caused it to weaken and break. That's exactly what happens with spokes. At the elbow end, the repeated tension and reduced-tension cycles caused by riding bends the elbow back and forth, once per revolution of the wheel. If the spokes can withstand that attack for hundreds of thousands of kilometers, we consider the wheel durable.
The same happens at the first valley (root) of the last thread at the spoke's threaded end. The last thread is the inside one closest to the elbow. That is the spoke's weakest point because it is the first thin point just adjacent to a thick part of the spoke. This part of the spoke is under huge stress because of the cyclical changes in tension and the fact that the neat V cut into the metal can be the source of cracks starting to happen. Imagine a packet of crisps - just the plastic packet. If you cut out a piece of the packet and keep the cut smooth, it is difficult to tear the piece However, if you cut (usually bite.) at notch in the smooth section, it is easy to tear it. That is called a stress crack and is exactly what happens to a spoke at the last thread.
Now for the counter-intuitive bit. To be durable, spokes must have a weak section somewhere other than in the two vulnerable ends. That's right. We must design a section of spoke that's weaker than the weakest bit and add it into the spoke. In other words, if the spoke is 2mm thick, the section where it is threaded will have valleys of only 1.9mm thickness. Therefore we have to make a part of the spoke even thinner - say 1.8mm. The crux is to keep it smooth though. Remember the crisp packet? So we design a thinner (but beautifully smooth) shank in the middle of the spoke. This means, that if you stretch the spoke, the thin part elongates more than the thicker parts and in a way protect the thicker parts from, let's call it, stretch-attack. The thin part is weaker, but still strong enough for the job. The weak section will not break when you get on the bike.
Now the spoke is durable. By concentrating the cyclical stretching and relaxing movement in the spoke in the long, thin smooth shank, we have created a durable spring in the middle that protects the vulnerable thread and head.
By making the shank even thinner - say 1.5mm as in SAPIM Laser, DT Swiss Revolution and Wheelsmith X-Lite spokes, you have paradoxically created an even more durable spoke than the one that is 1.8mm in the centre.
If you understand these principles, you will understand that the word Strong is wrong. A spoke that is 2mm or even 3mm throughout it's length is less durable than one that tapers to 1.5mm in the centre. The use of the name Strong in SAPIM's extra-thick spokes is thus comical. Of course they realise it but a long explanation like I've just given here doesn't condense easily into a sound bite. Besides, many mechanics just don't listen and refuse to understand. It would be commerciall suicide to not create a "Strong" spoke for them and take their money with a smile.
So, why aren't all wheels not built with Revolutions or Laser spokes? Cost. These spokes have extra manufacturing steps and that adds up. It much as doubles the manufacturing cost and that's reflected in retail prices. Secondly, it is very, very difficult to work with thin-shank spokes because they twist very easily and it takes special skill and tricks to not make them twist when tensioning the spokes. Just the difference in friction between brass and aluminium nipples makes it just about impossible to get them up to tension with high-friction aluminium nipples. Usually the builder is coerced into using aluminium nipples because the customer wrongly specifies 1.5mm spokes for weight reasons in the first place. Putting brass on there seems like sacrilege and pressure is put onto the builder to use aluminium. Big mistake! Building with 1.5mm spokes can double the build time. Time is money.
I hope this helps.