When a friend does a punishment pass...

[snorri]

I think my friend will be examining her attitude, and might well realise the rank hypocrisy of saying "I wouldn't have done it if I knew it was you."

We all live in hope of that.

...but go buy a small bottle of brake fluid anyway.........just in case

 

[midliferider]

If you are friends, have a friendly chat with her. You may be able to let her reflect on her actions. This may save lives in the future.

Some people at work has told me that they have changed their attitude to cyclists after I share with them my near misses on the way to work. They said they now treat all cyclists as me.

 

[GrumpyGregry]

Change your friends. They aren't worthy people.

 

[GrumpyGregry]

I see her four days a week, so I'll be a constant reminder that cyclists can be friends too. She'll know that I won't forget.

Doesn't matter of you forget. Matters if she forgets. She's going to forget. The next time her irritation with a cyclist gets the better of her.

 

[Sara_H]

Any more, and I'll need to make an appointment.

Just report her to the vicar.

 

[Levo-Lon]

Take her out for lunch..

 

[briantrumpet]

Just report her to the vicar.

The bishop, maybe. I think she'd just been to the big church in town.

 

[glenn forger]

Go higher than the bishop.

 

[Shut Up Legs]

Part of the problem is that these people do not see cyclists as people. What difference should it make if they know you or not? They should treat everyone with respect

This is exactly what public education campaigns should be focusing on: the fact that a cyclist you encounter on the road while driving your motor vehicle could be your friend, work colleague, relative, etc., or if not, certainly someone else's. These campaigns should be pushing for more empathy, and pushing hard.

 

[briantrumpet]

Go higher than the bishop.

Someone sympathetic, like this?

 

[Booyaa]

she's a hypocritical psycho christian monster, pour brake fluid over her car and never speak to her again.

 

[winjim]

Isn't Evensong supposed to be all nice and choral and chilled out, and leave you relaxed and happy? Anyway, I'm not sure her actions were particularly in keeping with her faith, but the Christian thing to do would be to forgive her, and maybe have a little chat about it so she can see the cyclist's point of view. Probably over a cup of tea and a biscuit.

 

[cosmicbike]

If it were me, I'd take her for coffee, and ask how she'd have felt if she made my 2 kids fatherless, and my wife a widow, with her inconsiderate driving.

She pays for the coffee btw.

 

[Tin Pot]

Tell there is no such thing as platonic friendship between men and women.

 

[briantrumpet]

Isn't Evensong supposed to be all nice and choral and chilled out, and leave you relaxed and happy? Anyway, I'm not sure her actions were particularly in keeping with her faith, but the Christian thing to do would be to forgive her, and maybe have a little chat about it so she can see the cyclist's point of view. Probably over a cup of tea and a biscuit.

I'm going to be patient and see what she says, whenever she feels like saying it. If she says nothing, I shall enjoying waiting for a moment when the subject of cyclists comes up. I'm patient. She's neither unintelligent, nor (normally) uncharitable. It's actually quite interesting to have witnessed an otherwise pleasant and rational friend display such intolerance and poor judgement.

Oh, and we do cake, lots of cake, at school, especially on Fridays.