Do you consider it rude when...

[totallyfixed]

You have replied either on a thread or a pm to a "help" type question and you don't get a thank you or even a reply. It has happened a couple of times to me now and I am left wondering if this is normal, anyone else experienced this?

 

[Drago]

But is that as rude as simply not helping someone for the satisfaction that brings, instead of expecting grovelling platitudes of thanks?

 

[Andrew_Culture]

Sometimes I'm grateful for information but don't feel I have much to add in a reply, which is why the 'like' facility is marvelous.

 

[Booyaa]

I think on a thread it is fine, I would expect a thanks if it was via PM though, at least an acknowledgement. It really wouldn't bother me if someone didn't thank me for giving advice on an open forum, there is more in life to worry about than that.

 

[totallyfixed]

But is that as rude as simply not helping someone for the satisfaction that brings, instead of expecting grovelling platitudes of thanks?

Only the second post and side tracked already, just asking a simple question.

 

[totallyfixed]

I think on a thread it is fine, I would expect a thanks if it was via PM though, at least an acknowledgement. It really wouldn't bother me if someone didn't thank me for giving advice on an open forum, there is more in life to worry about than that.

I agree to a point, but if someone has taken the time to write a fairly involved, accurate and helpful reply then surely a thanks is normal? Sigh, perhaps I am getting old .

 

[Hacienda71]

I would always reply to a pm. On a thread I would probably put a general cheers guys type responce if there were multiple respondents.

 

[compo]

I always offer a thank you for information.

In a similar vein I wish people would come back and tell us the result when they have been given advice.

 

[Hacienda71]

Oh and the like function is a good way of thanking people imho.

 

[Drago]

Only the second post and side tracked already, just asking a simple question.

And I answered it - it's just as rude to give assistance expecting praise, as it is to be assisted and offer no thanks.

I didn't realise we could give any answer we wanted, just so long as it suits you to hear it.

 

[Night Train]

I think on a thread it is fine, I would expect a thanks if it was via PM though, at least an acknowledgement. It really wouldn't bother me if someone didn't thank me for giving advice on an open forum, there is more in life to worry about than that.

This, I think.

Sometimes on a thread there are so many replies and to thank them all is awkward. I must admit to having posed a question in the past and then completely forgotten about it.
That is unintentional though and I do apologise to those who did reply.

By PM it is best to reply and acknowledge a response as someone has taken time to specifically assist a personal request for help.

 

[Alex H]

But is that as rude as simply not helping someone for the satisfaction that brings,

 

[Drago]

Now that's a funny!

 

[ianrauk]

It doesn't help sometimes when a member (especially in beginners) asks a know how or technical question and other members jump right in with sarky comments, or a tit for tat erupts between members as to who's method/way/opinion is right. This just leaves people peeved off probably not wanting to return to the thread.

 

[totallyfixed]

And I answered it - it's just as rude to give assistance expecting praise, as it is to be assisted and offer no thanks.

I didn't realise we could give any answer we wanted, just so long as it suits you to hear it.

Praise is different from thanks and is something I would never expect or indeed look for. Politeness costs nothing and stops threads from degenerating into slanging matches, which I might add are unlikely to happen if the protagonists were to meet in real life.