handshake etiquette

[Fnaar]

Bonobo chimps basically sh@g each other as a greeting. Might suggest this approach at work, when I have to visit Miss Pertly-Uppington in Finance Dept.

 

[ScotiaLass]

We have to shake hands at church and say "peace be with you"

Same here, I am uncomfortable doing it with strangers though

 

[gbb]

Agree, but a weak handshake from a woman annoys me too!

In my old job (engineering buyer), meeting suppliers wa a regular thing, handshaking obligatory. I suspect women offer a weak handshake simply because its not part of their normal social interaction, so theyre (for the most part) uncomfortable with it. For that supposed reason, i never minded...but a limp handshake from a man...

Now going to goole fist pump

 

[Ganymede]

In my old job (engineering buyer), meeting suppliers wa a regular thing, handshaking obligatory. I suspect women offer a weak handshake simply because its not part of their normal social interaction, so theyre (for the most part) uncomfortable with it. For that supposed reason, i never minded...but a limp handshake from a man...

Now going to goole fist pump

You don't have to go all the way to Goole, surely?

I think you're right that women don't get taught a handshake - which is why I am always teaching young women I meet how to do a proper handshake! I take my social mentoring seriously!

 

[sazzaa]

I'm sure it was someone at a recruitment agency who told me to always do a firm handshake, as it's a first impression thing.That was about twenty years ago though.

 

[ColinJ]

a pet hate of mine is a Firm handshake from a weak individual, nothing worse than fool who thinks a firm handshakes gives them some sort of early advantage, I've no problem letting them know I'm not impressed...

What do you think of fools with weak handshakes?

 

[sazzaa]

a pet hate of mine is a Firm handshake from a weak individual, nothing worse than fool who thinks a firm handshakes gives them some sort of early advantage, I've no problem letting them know I'm not impressed...

But if you're giving a handshake on a first meet, how do you know it's a weak individual? And what makes an individual a weak one anyway?!

 

[ComedyPilot]

I don't like shaking hands.
I do it because social convention dictates, nothing else.

Hugs....?

 

[ScotiaLass]

Hugs....?

I can do hugs...firm is always good.
I have sensitivities so a light touch is actually quite painful for me. Sounds daft but it's true!

 

[Fnaar]

When you shake hands (firmness is a must, but not crushing, that's just silly), also touch their forearm with your other hand... it surreptitiously puts you in control. Not that I give two hoots about that sort of claptrap

 

[Ganymede]

When you shake hands (firmness is a must, but not crushing, that's just silly), also touch their forearm with your other hand... it surreptitiously puts you in control. Not that I give two hoots about that sort of claptrap

I would notice that and think "creeeeeepy!" - so it wouldn't work with me!

 

[ScotiaLass]

When you shake hands (firmness is a must, but not crushing, that's just silly), also touch their forearm with your other hand... it surreptitiously puts you in control. Not that I give two hoots about that sort of claptrap

Touch my forearm and you'd likely get a punch

 

[Fnaar]

OK then, back to the Bonobo approach for me

 

[nickyboy]

on the original question, the wrap around fist normally followed with the shoulder touch is common among friends, ...

To me that would feel like either I was Andy Murray or someone from "da hood". Maybe I'm just getting old....

 

[ScotiaLass]

To me that would feel like either I was Andy Murray or someone from "da hood". Maybe I'm just getting old....

Me too...and I'd most likely punch you....oh wait, did I just say that?