Why do peds always give you a mouthful?

[Cyclopathic]

Try to imagine the situation from the other persons perspective. Play it through in your head with your roles swapped around and see if you still feel exactly the same way about it?

 

[Darren Jeffrey]

Everyone makes mistakes, doesn't make them idiots. We are all fallible human beings.

It seems to me (from reading your posts) that you may secretly crave confrontation. Again not necessarily a bad thing but it may end up physical one day and I guess the question is could you go toe to toe with someone that takes major offence to being called an idiot?

Better to just ignore it and enjoy your day a bit more. Confrontation almost never ends in you going away thinking I'm glad I done that

 

[PK99]

Try to imagine the situation from the other persons perspective. Play it through in your head with your roles swapped around and see if you still feel exactly the same way about it?

That is exactly the problem most autistic/aspergers adults have and Matthew exemplifies - they have a very poor 'Theory of mind' ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theory_of_mind )and cannot put them selves in the other person's position

 

[Matthew_T]

Okay I now know how it feels to have someone act the way I acted towads me.

I had a guy pass me too close and I tooted my horn. He pulled over and threatened to run me over. I managed to avoid him but I was still contemplating this thread and opinions about my actions. I didnt say anything abusive towards him at all.

 

[potsy]

1501

 

[PK99]

Okay I now know how it feels to have someone act the way I acted towads me.

I had a guy pass me too close and I tooted my horn. He pulled over and threatened to run me over. I managed to avoid him but I was still contemplating this thread and opinions about my actions. I didnt say anything abusive towards him at all.

In many of your videos you sound your horn AFTER the event not when another vehicle poses a danger - you are aggressive in the way you use it.

If you were a driver you would be breaching the code,

#The Highway Code - Rule 92
The horn. Use only while your vehicle is moving and you need to warn other road users of your presence. Never sound your horn aggressively.
You MUST NOT use your horn
while stationary on the road
when driving in a built up area between the hours of 11.30 pm and 7.00 am
except when another vehicle poses a danger.

 

[Rob3rt]

An observation, given that you usually post here to get "opinions" on your actions, then I tend to believe that you yourself are not wholly convinced of your actions being particularly righteous even when you tend to say you were in the right and thus want someone to affirm that you were in the right. All because you have a nagging feeling that you were in the wrong. I know this feeling well, being the sort of person (much more in the past than the present) who would "occasionally" get into a confrontation or even a bit of fisticuffs over some absolutely innocuous events. What I have come to realise is that, that nagging feeling of not being quite so in the right, given the benefit of hindsight and the clearing of the red mist is basically a sign that you know you were not in the right in the 1st place. I can not recall one single incident where I have been involved in a confrontation, verbal or physical where I felt good about it following the event! Learn to stfu, it can be hard, especially if you are prone to blowing up (which I don't think is the case with you), but work at it!

 

[Matthew_T]

An observation, given that you usually post here to get "opinions" on your actions, then I tend to believe that you yourself are not wholly convinced of your actions being particularly righteous even when you tend to say you were in the right and thus want someone to affirm that you were in the right. All because you have a nagging feeling that you were in the wrong. I know this feeling well, being the sort of person (much more in the past than the present) who would "occasionally" get into a confrontation or even a bit of fisticuffs over some absolutely innocuous events. What I have come to realise is that, that nagging feeling of not being quite so in the right, given the benefit of hindsight and the clearing of the red mist is basically a sign that you know you were not in the right in the 1st place. I can not recall one single incident where I have been involved in a confrontation, verbal or physical where I felt good about it following the event!

The fact is that I dont feel like I am in the wrong, but I know that something that I did was wrong. Normally it is the fact that I react to people.

In the ped case, I reacted to him crossing infront of me. I then reacted to him shouting something and running after me.
In the case of today, I reacted to him passing me too closely. I then reacted to him telling me to get out of the middle of the road. And then I reacted to him shouting at me again.

It is always my reaction which instigates the situation. And I find it really hard to bite my tongue. This is probably (as has been said before) because I have my own view of the world and a bold view of right and wrong. My views are actually normally the correct ones but I just dont consider that what is right might not be someone elses view. And me reacting to them they see as wrong and confrontational.

 

[Scruffmonster]

My views are actually normally the correct ones

NO

 

[PK99]

. My views are actually normally the correct ones .

IN YOUR OPINION - and one is often not the best judge of whether ones own view is correct as one only has part of the picture.

 

[Matthew_T]

IN YOUR OPINION - and one is often not the best judge of whether ones own view is correct as one only has part of the picture.

True.

I guess it is just the problem of maturity. As a young person I have a lot to say for myself. I often feel that what I have to say is important and as a result, talk a lot. This comes out worst on the roads.
It will come with age that I will learn to ignore things. I have improved greatly over the past few years and dont react too much now.

 

[PK99]

True.

I guess it is just the problem of maturity. As a young person I have a lot to say for myself. I often feel that what I have to say is important and as a result, talk a lot. This comes out worst on the roads.
It will come with age that I will learn to ignore things. I have improved greatly over the past few years and dont react too much now.

My god, what were you like a few years ago????

In all honesty, if i did not know of your aspergers I would want to give you a good slapping myself. You come across on your videos, and many of the posts on here as far too gobbyand self rightous for your own good

 

[4F]

Keep riding, take your horn off, keep you gob shut. Simples

 

[Matthew_T]

Keep riding, take your horn off, keep you gob shut. Simples

Nicely put. I just need to remember that when out now.

 

[4F]

Nicely put. I just need to remember that when out now.

I have had my run in with a few nutters in the past and honestly it is just not worth it as all that happened is that I would get wound up, life is too short.