@Yellow Saddle - Without derailing the thread too much, if what you're saying is true and comprehensive (which I have no grounds to disagree with) Then what is it that makes some bikes feel so inherently different from others? Am I to believe that given all materials have zero flex vertically and will make no difference to ride "dampening" (or give it a name, as appropriate") that 2 bikes with similar gemoetries and the same wheels/contacts points but different materials will feel the same?
You raise a good point and some of the answer lies in
@Fab Foodie's post above. Very few people have identical bikes in different materials. Think about that for a minute. Only then can we actually compare the rides.
I am in a kinda unique position here but a position that is by no means conclusive.
I bought myself a Cannondale CAAD4 bike way back when and thought it was a great bike. I then took up touring and decided that the Cannondale wont work - it having no bosses for racks and the chainstays being too short for panniers. I then made myself a steel bike with the exact same dimensions as the Cannondale. Because knew nothing about framebuilding and design at the time, I didn't want to experiment with angles etc and I copied the CAAD4 exactly - except for one thing - I made the rear chainstays as long as the tubeset I ordered allows. Obviously this was now a steel bike. The only difference in the frame was the rear end which had a super long chainsta - so long I could fit my fist between the rear wheel and the seat tube.
Opinion in the "squad" at the time had it that the new bike would be super flexy, soft to ride and slow to steer but more stabe - all standard bike magazine mantra.
The reality was that I could not tell you which bike I was riding. Ridiculous maybe but I had plenty moments where I was looking straight ahead, immersed in my thoughts and then coming back to the present, I couldn't tell which bike I was on until I looked down.
There were some differences. The alu bike had 28-spoke wheels, the steel one 32. The alu one had a Ti seatpost, the steel one, an alu one. The bars were a different brand but gruppo was identical. I could not perceive any difference in steering, vibration, flex etc.
Obviously this is not conclusive but it did get me thinking about how much pre-conception affects our perception of the ride experience. I think vibration is over rated. When on the drops, a bike is very well damped and only rough bumps come through. I just don't get this road buzz that's so often mentioned.